The Lust of Being Needed

We all want to feel like we matter. Sometimes we can get so jaded that we can’t really admit this. We can’t admit it until someone comes along and disrupts us to remind us of that magic. We all have an inner longing toward feeling like someone needs what we have to offer. But, where can we draw the line between feeling needed and being used?

Most of us have found ourselves in situations where we felt someone’s soul or heart reaching for us. Being creatures of service, this can have such a magnetic pull. The idea of someone not being able to stay away from us sounds so romantic, it’s almost poetic. Most of us, especially the more creative and artistic souls, have attracted those who need, but do not cherish; who want, but do not treasure; who wish for us, but do not work for us; who say the right things, but do not do the right things; the ones with addictive behaviors.

The magic of being wanted can come with a fantastic intensity that seems to be inexplicable. It's the same intensity that spurs inspiration for songs like, "Love The Way You Lie" by Eminem ft. Rihanna. It can be intoxicating to ponder how deeply someone must connect with us to need us; to be at his or her most vulnerable and seek us.

However, we must stop…

... and ask ourselves, “What is it about us that they need?"

Is it what we do for them or is it our souls? Is it the convenience or the connection? Is it that he doesn’t have to be accountable or that we are her safe place? Somewhere in us, our gut, our little voice inside, speaks up.

It perfectly observes the direct line from our hearts to our loved ones’. It can feel whether there’s a rift there. It can sense whether there’s a break in that line. It can see whether there is a hollow place where a light should be.

Today, I invite you to recognize when you’re needed for you or for the convenience your presence provides.

Bring to mind a time when someone took advantage of your kindness; when you were dismissed or unappreciated.

Then, recall a time when someone truly appreciated you.

What did your gut, your little voice say about these times? How can we compare and contrast them?

After getting a grasp on your connection to others, when was the last time your soul recognized an empty, hollow or unhealed space in another?

Can you accept that the hurt you endured was likely because they didn’t know better than to act from that place?

Can you accept that many times when you’ve done wrong unto others, that you acted from that place yourself?

Can you do better, starting today?

Can we abandon the lust and familiarity of ego for healing and strength?

We must; for it is only then that we will know true comfort.

Blessed be.

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(Copyright Laura Wadek / Centered Spirit Birth Services)